Lately I've been reflecting on what it means to have integrity. I've heard it said that integrity means doing the right thing even when nobody's looking. This begs the question, what IS the right thing?
It is to love.
A cashier accidentally gives a guy too much change. If the guy has integrity, he'll go back into the store and return the extra to her. If he decides to pocket the money instead, the cashier's till will be out at the end of the day, affecting whether or not she can keep her job. Pocketing the money is a selfish and unloving action.
Integrity is all about honesty.
Pocketing the money involves lying to himself and not taking responsibility. 'I don't need to give this back because she's the one who made the mistake. She should just learn how to do her job properly. I'm not really stealing." This is to blame the other person instead of looking at himself to see what he can do for the sake of another human being.
If reflecting love and grace and forgiveness is important to him, he will be truthful and give the money back.
I see honesty, then, as a way of loving oneself as well as loving others. It involves keeping a clear conscience but also shows great care and respect for other people.