On Monday when I arrived at Tamara's grade one classroom to pick her up, her teacher—a warm and gentle soul—showed me the damage. Tamara had scratched some drawings onto the door.
"I told her how serious this was and she did say that, yes, she was the one who did it. She said she was sorry and wouldn't do it again," her teacher said.
Tamara turned toward the wall in shame and embarrassment. Her teacher winked at me.
"I think it's really great that she was honest and that she apologized," I said. "Thanks for letting me know."
And that was the end of it.
I'm so proud of her because she didn't lie, make excuses, or try to escape from the situation. Instead she took responsibility for what she did and was willing to learn from her mistake.
Knowing she felt bad about it and especially in light of the fact that she genuinely apologized, I haven't mentioned the incident in her presence ever since.
And, if you ask me, her drawings were pretty darn cute.